Have you ever assigned magical qualities to someone and then resented or blamed them for not living up to your expectations or stayed in a relationship too long because you aren’t willing to face reality?
I know I used to do this all the time. Especially on the topic of dating and relationships. I would get feedback from different people and end up even more uncertain and confused in the end.
The last few months have been an intense period of growth for me and I know I’m not alone. I see this with my friends and clients as well. So much has been happening all at once that is really giving us x-ray vision into anything within us that has yet to be processed and integrated.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were dating someone in the hopes that they would show up differently or do the work on themselves and change into the person you always knew they could be? Yeah, me too.
Many of my clients come to me with the question of: “should I stay or should I leave my relationship? I will never tell you what you should or shouldn’t do (because that is not supportive or ethical in my opinion) but what I will help you do is untangle what is showing up that is creating this question in the first place so that you can make an empowered decision from a more peaceful and grounded place because this is the place where the answers come from.