If I Win and You Lose, We Both Lose

The number one thing clients come to me for is help with communication. Most of us were not taught how to navigate the inevitable challenges that come in all relationships, especially romantic ones. 

We learned how to deal with (or avoid) conflict based on how it was handled in the home we grew up in and the skills we have picked up could use some shifts and upgrades. If we keep doing what we are doing, we will keep getting the same results. 

Something that is vital to understand is that every person’s experience is valid, even if we don’t agree with it. When we get caught up in who’s right/wrong we miss the point which is looking at the deeper layers of what is happening and the information it can provide to us to help us better understand ourselves and each other. 

We see the world through the lens of our belief system which is based on our past experiences and subconscious beliefs. No two people will see a situation the exact same way. If we can put down the idea that there are “sides” or a “winner and a loser” in an argument. We can get curious and explore what the root of the conflict is and actually have an opportunity to heal it. 

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives so it would serve us greatly to take the time to expand our toolkit and learn how to communicate in ways that foster more connection, fulfillment, and intimacy.

I have a beautiful tool that was created by my mentors Rudy and Kelly Castro of Conscious Partnership Coaching that I use with all of my clients to help us take any breakdown and get to the root of what is being illuminated in order to heal and alchemize it so that it doesn’t have to keep showing up over and over again.

Click the link below to download my free Guidebook: 5 Steps to Dismantle and Heal Any Breakdown


If you are finding yourself in a looping cycle with no end in sight there is another way! Reach out at the link below and book your free consult call and let’s dive in so that you can experience the life and the relationships you desire.

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