We carry limiting beliefs, patterns, and programs imposed on us from our childhood as well as society and a lot of them sound something like this: “I am not enough”, “I will be alone”, “I am different”, “I don’t fit in”, “I have to be perfect”, “People always leave”, “Life is hard”, and so on.
These beliefs were created based on experiences we had, usually between the ages of 0-7, and they are imprinted into our subconscious mind at that time. We then view the world through the filter of these beliefs. We will unconsciously choose the very people, places, situations, and circumstances that mirror these beliefs back to us – proving ourselves right, every time.
Part of loving ourselves is creating a space for ourselves where we can become aware of the beliefs we have that are no longer serving us so that we can shift them. Once we have this awareness, we will start to notice when the belief comes up and be able to process and release any emotion surrounding the belief (as this is what gives the belief its power) and from there we can choose a new story and rewire the brain to support this new vision. This is the work I do with my clients.
If we do not take the time to become aware of these beliefs, we will continue to live at the effect of them and create the same relationship dynamics and life circumstances over and over again. We will be stuck in an unconscious perpetual cycle.
Loving ourselves means loving ALL parts of ourselves, the dark and the light, knowing that we are human and that it’s all part of the human experience. Doing this work allows us to let go of blame, shame, and victim perspectives that only keep us stuck and adopt a broader, more compassionate perspective about what it all means.
Anything “wrong” with you is simply a survival mechanism that you learned as a child and we have the power to choose to release these behaviors and patterns that no longer serve us, so that we can experience new results in our relationships.
Loving ourselves means recognizing that all relationships have layers and this work allows us to become the observer of our patterns and programs and recognize and shift them so that we can create more connection, intimacy, and love in our lives.
Isn’t it time to leave the past dynamics in the past, and step into the relationship(s) you have always desired? I can help! Book your free consult call TODAY!