We have been programmed to believe that there is someone out there who will “complete” us and that until we find that one special person, we are incomplete. The dating game becomes a quest for that one special person who will finally rescue us by making us whole and then we can relax because subsequently all of our problems will be solved.
Being a human on the planet means that we all have varying degrees of baggage that impact us and our relationships on a day to day basis. We have two choices: we can keep carrying our baggage around without looking inside and let it continue to impact our lives on an unconscious level OR we can unpack it and have a chance to be liberated from it.
We are made up of energy and our energetic field attracts or repels things to us depending on our resonance. This is why there are sayings like “when it rains, it pours” because whatever vibrational field we are existing in will attract more of the same to it.