When you enter into a new relationship it’s not just two people coming together. It’s two people’s childhoods, relationship histories, past traumas, and triggers and basically two different mental filters experiencing the dynamic.
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There’s No Such Thing As A Perfect Partner
We have been sold a bill of goods in our society that tells us that when we grow up and find a partner and live happily ever after. It’s the theme of almost every Disney movie and rom com we have ever watched and this messaging gets into our subconscious mind and many of us have been wandering from relationship to relationship seeking that perfect fantasy that doesn’t exist.
Here’s Best Tool I’ve Found to Navigate and Repair Conflict
We can have every intention of showing up as the best version of ourselves in romantic relationships and it is inevitable that at some point we will be hijacked by our triggers and say or do something that creates the opposite of what we actually want. This is not bad or wrong but simply a result of getting close enough to someone that the dynamic mirrors back to us opportunities to grow and evolve past our current relational skills.
Want Your Relationships To Improve? Put the Focus Back Onto You
One of the biggest issues I see in my work with individuals and couples with relational challenges is the tendency for us to focus on what the other person is doing/not doing.
Relational Pain is an Opportunity
Within any painful dynamic is a profound opportunity for healing and liberation. Whatever is showing up in our lives and creating pain is revealing to us the places and spaces within us where we are not yet free.