As I navigate the breakup the past three months, I can’t help but notice that when I go to people for support many of them want to help by “fixing it” or giving me advice, rather than just holding space for my experience and allowing me to be exactly where I’m at emotionally.
Between the ages of 0-7 we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen). For example if we have a belief that “love is hard” we will find evidence to prove ourselves right and if we believe “love is everywhere” we will find evidence to prove that belief right.
This has been a major topic in my life the past few months after my breakup. You know that time in-between what was and what will be? If you’re anything like me, you have a hard time letting go. It can be so challenging not to buy into the spiraling obsessive thoughts and wonder if it is, in fact, true that things are working out for my highest good, or if this is just some cruel cosmic joke. Breakups have a really good way of activating our past wounds/old stories.