This is one of the biggest, most painful beliefs that I see in the work that I do in the world. “Something is wrong with me” and then the finding of evidence to support that belief.
The word trauma holds a lot of charge. In a nutshell trauma is an emotional response to a distressing event. We all have some version of trauma because we all have past experiences that impacted us by kicking us into a fight or flight response which then gets imprinted in the brain.
When we experience challenges in relationships the tendency is usually to point the finger or blame the other person for what is happening. When we do this we miss the opportunity to go within and ask “what is this teaching me about me?”