We humans are meaning-making machines. We see the world through the lens of our own personal belief system and then we give it meaning. The way we interpret things in the present moment is determined by our past experiences.
We experience the world and our relationships through the lens of our personal belief system. Conflict can occur when our INTERPRETATION of what is happening is different than someone else’s. We think that everyone’s experience is the same as ours – but that is where we are misguided.
Heartbreak and heartache is part of the human experience and can hurt just as much as a physical injury. Our society doesn’t seem to view it this way or create the time and care needed to allow our hearts to heal in the same way we would need time and care for a broken bone to heal.
Healing is not linear. Some days we may feel like things are shifting for the better and we are finally in a different place and some days we may slip back into old habit patterns of thinking and being and feel like we haven’t made any progress at all. This is all part of it. There is no perfect way to heal.
There are times in our lives when we will be in a romantic relationship and times when we will not. That is guaranteed. It is vital that we learn to be at peace on our own and love and accept ourselves with or without a romantic partner – otherwise our contentment with life will be at the mercy of whether we have a partner or not.