We project our unhealed core wounding from childhood onto our romantic partners in an attempt to finally have the corrective experience that we crave. Whatever needs that were consistently left unmet in childhood created imprints in our subconscious that drive us to seek the fulfillment of those needs as adults.
The way we relate to other people and to all of life is based on the internal landscape of our own minds. As within, so without. We learn our framework for how to relate based on what we experienced in our homes as children and often we subconsciously recreate similar dynamics in our lives as adults.
It takes two to tango and challenges and conflict don’t happen in a vacuum. Even if the other person is responsible for 95% of the issue, we are still responsible for 5%. In the healthiest relationships both people are committed to looking at their part, owning and acknowledging any hurt their actions have caused and willing to repair whatever impact was created (even if it was not intentional).
We are energetic beings and we hold emotional energy from past experiences in our physical bodies. Many of us were not taught that it is okay and actually HEALTHY to feel our emotions. As a result many of us learned to suppress them and push them down in order to be loved or accepted.
How many of you have found yourself trying to give from an empty cup? That’s been showing up for me again in new ways lately? I am moving through some of the deepest layers of my own healing and subconscious programming and it has taken me out a few times to be totally honest.