This has been a major topic in my life the past few months after my breakup. You know that time in-between what was and what will be? If you’re anything like me, you have a hard time letting go.
Speaking your truth when relating to others is one of the core principles of learning to relate in a conscious manner. It’s kind of funny because it seems so simple and obvious yet how many of us were taught to do this?
I had a session with my mentor and coach Santo last week (and yes, coaches also need coaches) and he said something really profound that is worth sharing. He asked me “what is in front of you right now” and emphasized that focusing on what is in front of me will lead me to whatever I need to see or know about myself to heal, grow, and expand. He reminded me that life is our teacher.
As I navigate this breakup the past three months, I can’t help but notice that when I go to people for support many of them want to help by “fixing it” or giving me advice, rather than just holding space for my experience and allowing me to be exactly where I’m at emotionally.
Do you ever find yourself desiring authentic connection and terrified of it at the same time? I know for myself, and many of my clients, we experience this specific duality which is usually the result of relational trauma from our past.