Between the ages of 0-7, we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen).
The beginning stages of dating can wreak havoc on our nervous systems. So much uncertainty, anxiety, attraction to people who may or may not be healthy choices for us, fantasies and projections.
Something happened when I turned 40. I felt myself just let it all go. I let go of all of the expectations of where I should be by now, and who I should (or shouldn’t) be with and decided to just tune in with myself and make decisions about these things moment by moment based on my emotional guidance system.