There is one thing that I see consistently when supporting individuals and couples in healing their relationship dynamics and that is that we subconsciously choose the very partner who will shine a light on whatever within us needs some attention, healing and integration.
You know the stories your mind tells you when you’re having a hard time? Stories like “it’s always going to be this way” or “no one will ever love me” that feel REALLY TRUE in the moment? Well they aren’t true. They aren’t even close to the truth. They are the voice of past trauma.