We have been programmed to believe that there is someone out there who will “complete” us and that until we find that one special person, we are incomplete. The dating game becomes a quest for that one special person who will finally rescue us by making us whole and then we can relax because subsequently all of our problems will be solved.
Between the ages of 0-7, we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen).
Something happened when I turned 40. I felt myself just let it all go. I let go of all of the expectations of where I should be by now, and who I should (or shouldn’t) be with and decided to just tune in with myself and make decisions about these things moment by moment based on my emotional guidance system.