I often get asked: “How does relationship coaching work?” “Do I need to be in a romantic relationship to work with you?” and the answer is no. The deeper answer to this question is that ALL OF LIFE IS A RELATIONSHIP – we are all in relationship to other people, to money, to our health and most importantly we are in relationship with OURSELVES. We are always in relationship.
How Do You Know When Someone is Unavailable? They will TELL YOU!
One of the main challenges many of my clients face is an attraction to people who are unavailable. This usually occurs because we tend to be subconsciously drawn to what feels familiar and associate that familiarity with love.
Our Mental Filter Creates Our Reality in Relationships
We see the world through the lens of our belief system. Our belief system is shaped by our past experiences and past traumas. Because of this, no two people will experience something the exact same way.
The Blame Game & the Heavy Price We Pay for Playing it
We pay a heavy price for not taking 100% responsibility for our part in a dynamic – and the price is that we can’t change it. Pointing the finger at someone will lead them to point the finger back at you and then you are at a standstill. It is never all one person’s fault. Even if the other person is 90% responsible for their part, we are still 10% responsible for our part.
How to Create a Strong Foundation In Your New Relationship
When you enter into a new relationship it’s not just two people coming together. It’s two people’s childhoods, relationship histories, past traumas, and triggers and basically two different mental filters experiencing the dynamic.