Perfectionism is a trauma response that is born when we were not allowed to make mistakes or judged harshly as children. Our subconscious mind imprints the believe that “I have to be perfect to be loved” and we project that impossible idea onto ourselves (and others but we’ll get to that in a bit).
I often get asked: “How does relationship coaching work?” “Do I need to be in a romantic relationship to work with you?” and the answer is no. The deeper answer to this question is that ALL OF LIFE IS A RELATIONSHIP – we are all in relationship to other people, to money, to our health and most importantly we are in relationship with OURSELVES. We are always in relationship.
We are energetic beings and the way we come across and the way we react and respond to others has a lot to do with energy. The frequency and energy we embody and give off directly affect all of our relationships.
One of the main challenges many of my clients face is an attraction to people who are unavailable. This usually occurs because we tend to be subconsciously drawn to what feels familiar and associate that familiarity with love.
We see the world through the lens of our belief system. Our belief system is shaped by our past experiences and past traumas. Because of this, no two people will experience something the exact same way.