I just had a session with my Coach Santo @rudysantocastro and we dove deep. We talked about why we are on the planet and what it really means to love….
Between the ages of 0-7 we decide our core beliefs about the world based on our experiences. The most impactful experiences cause us to create beliefs that are then imprinted into our subconscious mind and we project them out onto the world and they are mirrored back to us (like a movie screen). For example if we have a belief that “love is hard” we will find evidence to prove ourselves right and if we believe “love is everywhere” we will find evidence to prove that belief right.
This has been a major topic in my life the past few months after my breakup. You know that time in-between what was and what will be? If you’re anything like me, you have a hard time letting go. It can be so challenging not to buy into the spiraling obsessive thoughts and wonder if it is, in fact, true that things are working out for my highest good, or if this is just some cruel cosmic joke. Breakups have a really good way of activating our past wounds/old stories.
There is one thing that I see consistently when supporting individuals and couples in healing their relationship dynamics and that is that we subconsciously choose the very partner who will shine a light on whatever within us needs some attention, healing and integration.